What Really Is So Wrong with Being Feminine?
I’m stepping outside of my normal style of blogging and delving a bit deeper into a personal place. Sometimes maybe it’s not clear as to why I share my style and a love for the things I do and i’d like to explain that better here.
If you’ve been coming to this special little place that I’ve put together on the internet, then you must know I love pink. At least I hope that’s clear hehe.
I am so far from being the kind of person that thinks just because I love or like something, so should you.
No, absolutely not.
I share a love for pink and the feminine style as a way of embracing the way these two things make me feel. And even more important I do this to encourage women, regardless of what color or style they love to do more of what makes them happy too.
I firmly believe in supporting women and building each other up. Not tearing each other down. What a waste of energy right?
This is always a subject that bothers me a bit when people question why my style is so pink or so feminine. It’s as though today’s society is so against the feminine style out of fear that embracing the color pink or pretty clothes will somehow make you inferior or stupid to others. Now that’s just silly isn’t?
We are far more than the colors we love or the clothes we wear. I couldn’t believe that more.
Sometimes I feel like I’m losing hope in humanity. You see everywhere people fighting over just about anything. Important topics, I can understand to a degree. But trying to put down people for simple things that they love and are harmless to others, is nonsense. It makes me feel as though humans look just for just about anything to fight or hurt each other over. It is hard for me to understand when I am the type of person that tries to build others up as often as I can.
Loving the color pink doesn’t make me dumb. Embracing the feminine style doesn’t mean I think women should be suppressed to being just housewives or that I believe they don’t have the right to accomplish all that their hearts desire.
I simply am just finding my way of bringing positivity & light to a little piece of the Internet. No, I don’t show people all facets of my life, I like to keep parts of my life private, but J’adore Lexie Couture is a part of me.
Life is not perfect & I am far from that. My social media posts and my blog posts are not created to make you believe in some false life I am living.
Everything I create, produce & publish is for the purpose of positivity & inspiration in a place that I, for the most part, have control of.
Life is not always pretty & can actually be very ugly at times. For me, J’adore Lexie Couture is a world where I can choose to focus on the passion that comes from my real life and keep out all of the things I don’t like.
When I first started sharing my love for the feminine style I talked with countless women that told me they wish they could do the same. They all had many reasons as to why they didn’t fully embrace the style but one of the most common was stepping out of their comfort zones.
What would other people think of them now that they were wearing dresses and finally dressing the way they always wanted to?
That really got to me.
I can totally understand, too. When I was 15 I went out and bought a bunch of dresses. I didn’t have too many in my closet at the time. I was so excited about this and started envisioning all the places I would wear my NEW dresses to. Then fear crept in.. I started to doubt my self. I started to worry if people would make fun of me for wearing dresses when it wasn’t popular at the time.
How sad is that? You find something that makes you happy, and it quickly fades out of fear of what others may think? It’s not like I wanted to tattoo something obscene on my forehead. I simply just wanted to wear a dress.
When I hear from other women that wearing dresses more often is what they really want to do but they’re just too nervous to do it, I think back to how I felt as my 15-year-old self.
I so badly wish I could give them the courage to just go right ahead and do it but I don’t have that ability.
Clothes are just clothes, I know this.
I’m not saying go buy as much as you can right now and you’ll be happy.
No. That’s silly.
But buying a few items that will better reflect who you are and how you feel on the inside, I see nothing wrong with that.
I feel like people so much want to push us all to be alike, and I can understand those that find comfort in being similar to one another. But I think the road to happiness is discovering to truly be yourself.
I know you probably hear this over and over again and it may be a tad cliche, but it’s true.
After blogging about the feminine style for a while now, there are still people that try to push me to change & mention maybe it would be best for me if I did what was more popular. I get confused by this because that’s just not me and it never will be.
I’m creating my own path and every day I am happy to walk it. Others may not agree with the latest dress I’m loving or the current this or that I’m adoring, and that’s totally ok but please you others just because I’m not like you don’t tell me I should be any different than who I am.
Just like the other women that have reservations when it comes to embracing the style they so desire to, I once felt that way and I also found a way overcome it.
Every day I choose to go out into the world and show it my colorful & happy self and all I want is for others to do the same as well.
Before I sign off here I must say to you special people that know 100% who you are, THANK YOU. You come to my blog and leave supportive comments, send emails with your personal stories with words of encouragement and leave comments on my social posts. I appreciate every single one of you more than you could ever know & you have helped me so much through my blogging journey.